How can you get a three year old to understand that he doesnt get a “present” for being good at the store.?

Question by Mommy2351: How can you get a three year old to understand that he doesnt get a “present” for being good at the store.?
Everytime my husband or I go to the store, our 3yr old feels intitlement for a toy or treat of some sort. When he realizes that he isnt going to receive anything he goes in to full tantrum, embarrasing us. Any suggestions would be helpful.

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Answer by S.K.
Ah, the down-side of rewarding good behavior at other times with a little present rears its ugly head!

Threes are capable of logic, actually. They also benefit from repetition.

“We are going to the store today. I know you’ll be a good boy.” Later, “It’s not too long until we go to the store. I expect you to be a good boy.” Later still, “We’re going to the store now. I’m sure you’re going to be a good boy, and if you are, then before bedtime Daddy or I will read to you for ten extra minutes.” As you enter the store, “Remember, if you’re good while we shop, extra reading tonight. But no toy, good or bad. We are not here to buy toys and treats.”

Later, whether he behaved or not at the store, “You’re a big boy, and smart enough to know that you’re good nearly all the time. We can’t give you a present every time you’re good or our whole house would be filled with presents. Wouldn’t that be silly? Where would we sit? I’m still very proud of you when you’re good at the store. Daddy is, too.”

Giving your attention as a reward, and praise when it’s earned, works really well.

Know better? Leave your own answer in the comments!

NUMEROLOGY: Your Karma Numbers & Life in 2011 – This is Your Year

Karma. Your Karma profoundly effects your life, past, present and future.

Knowing your Karma Number for 2011 will tell you what the future holds for you.

Love? Career? Success? Health? Family… Friends…

Numerolgically, 2011 is going to be one of the most dramatic periods of change of our generation.

Your Karma number has much to tell you what awaits you and how you can control those changes to your own ends…

As Master Numerologist Blair Gorman explains it: “The Karma number is not really of Western numerology but more a Vedic or Indian invention. You may not relate to the idea of having a karma number if you do not believe in reincarnation however it is an interesting exercise in numerology if you do subscribe to the concept.

“The Karma number is supposed to tell you about the baggage you are carrying over from your last lifetime that is giving you lessons to learning in this lifetime.

In this sense numerology can tell you what types of karma you are carrying over from a previous life. All you need to do is calculate your Karma number.”


Your Karmic number is not calculated in any way that you may have been familiar with so far. It is figured out using fadic addition.

Technically the number is based on a Magic Square that incorporates your birth date numbers and the values.

The shortcut to calculating your Karma number is found by taking the month of your birth day, subtracting 1 and then reducing the number to 1

For instance if your birth day is June 7, 1960 you would take the day of the month of your birth day and subtract 2. You would then reduce the result by fadic addition.

The calculation would be 7-1 = 6.

If the person was born on June 17th you would reduce it like this: 17-1 =16 and 1+7 = 8.

The Karma number values and their meanings are listed below.

Karma Number (0)

If you reduce to a zero then it is possible you are a new soul or
one that has cleared up a lot of karmic debt in your past life.
This current life is one where you get to start again with a clean

Karma Number (1)

The lesson of this karma number is learning to be independent. You
may start off this life by being very dependent on others, with the
life lesson being that you need to stand on your own two feet. This
might manifest as spending most of your life single or being very
successful but alone.

Karma Number (2)

The karma of this life has to do with learning how to get along
with others. You may have taken advantage of others in your past
life and now it is payback time. You may find yourself saddled with
the responsibility of taking care of someone who is dependent on
you. You may also have to learn to be less skeptical and how to
trust your intuition…

Karma Number (3)

You may have been frivolous, wasteful and guilty of not taking
things seriously enough. You may have also taken credit for someone
else’s accomplishment or cheated to get to the top somehow. Your
lesson in this life is to be balanced, serious and responsible.

Karma Number (4)

You may have been lazy in your past life so in this life you will
be asked to fulfill your potential. You may have to work harder
than most people just to make a living. Your karma requires you to
be persistent; great riches are possible if you keep doing the
right thing without complaint.

Karma Number (5)

You may have been an addict, wasteful or sexually over active in
your last lifetime. Your lesson in this lifetime will be symbolized
by situations that necessitate that you work hard and make
sacrifices so you can get ahead later. You may also be dealing with
health crisises that force you to stay on the straight and narrow.

Karma Number (6)

You are dealing with the karma of betraying or abandoning your
family in a past lifetime. In this lifetime you may find yourself
in the position of having to care for your family or take care of
someone who is ill. You may also find it hard to strike out on your
own and leave the family nest.

Karma Number (7)

You are dealing with the karma of failing to pay attention to the
spiritual side of your life. You may have been too focused on money
in your past life so in this life it may be more challenging for
you to make money. You may be dealing with an illness or chronic
problem that also tests your faith.

Karma Number (8)

You may have been in a position of power and abused it somehow in
your past life. It is also possible you may have exploited others
for financial gain. In this life you are doomed to be a follower.
You will probably have to get by in this lifetime with less money
than most and you will likely have to work hard to get ahead in

Karma Number (9)

You are dealing with the karma of avoiding assisting or loving
other people in a past life. Your lesson in this lifetime is to
learn to be kind, compassionate and help others. You will probably
start this life with great personal needs of your own, and will
only progress in life once you learn how to be a teacher or a
philanthropist in your own life.

As you can see this is not the usual way that numbers are
calculated but it is interesting as the interpretations are
practically the opposite of what we would normally associate with
these particular number values.

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The Herb Lady Announces Classes for the New Year

Mesa, AZ (PRWEB) January 12, 2006

Growing edibles in the Desert Southwest (and other similar year-round climates) is a joy for gardeners, but new-to-desert-gardening find getting started intimidating because of a flip-flop of seasonal planting schedules, and the fear-factor of summer heat. Learn why Basil loves the heat and how to grow old favorites and unusual herbs; and, how to take them into the kitchen, perfume the air with delicious scents, and good taste at the table.

Catherine, The Herb Lady teaches how to have successful, year-round gardens of edibles in her “Grow & Enjoy Culinary Herbs” class offered at the Desert Botanical Garden in Phoenix, the Red Mountain Multi-Generation Center in Mesa, and Chandler-Gilbert Community College in Gilbert.

The Herb Lady’s popular “Decorative and Edible Vinegars Class” is also offered at those locations. This fun class teaches how to make attractive and useful vinegars from edibles, with ways to cook, clean and even use for skin and hair care.

New this year is The Herb Lady’s “Appetizing Cocktail Party” class where students will learn to make an appetizer and cocktail party really ?cook’ with the addition of herbs in this hands-on demonstration, and sample new ways with old favorites and unusual twists to tastier food. Offered at the Red Mountain Multi-Generation Center in Mesa.

At the Boyce Thompson Arboretum’s Annual “Herb Festival” April 8, 2006, Catherine will be demonstrating, sampling and answering questions on delicious ways with herbs.

Class and event schedule is available at the website, click on “learn” for details.

The Herb Lady, author of the book “Edible Landscaping in the Desert Southwest: Wheelbarrow to Plate,” is also a regular guest on Ed Phillip’s streaming radio, and her column appears monthly in the East Valley Tribune and Scottsdale Progress.

Herbs 2 U was founded to educate and inform folks on gardening with herbs, edible flowers and other edible plants, and then bringing those useful and flavorful plants into the kitchen and creating mouthwatering meals.

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Pet Microchip Helps to Locate Pet Pooch Lost for Over One Year and 1,260 Miles Away From Home

San Diego, CA (PRWEB) July 7, 2004

On Tuesday June 30, the King County Animal Services Shelter (Seattle Washington) left a phone message at the Seymour home in San Diego that Dharma their lost dog was found. About sixteen months ago Dharma went missing from the family yard. The beloved pooch was found roaming the streets of Federal Way last week near Seattle Washington. With a scan for a microchip, an AVID FriendChip™ was found through Avid’s Recovery Network, PETtrac™. The Seymour Family was revealed as the owner. “This obviously shows the value of pet microchip identification,” said Al Dams, an administrator for King County Animal Services, “We hope this nice story will be a reminder to all pet owners to have your pet licensed and microchipped. This reunion occurred because the microchip provider had the correct and updated information in the system. We believe in the use of microchips for pets because, as with Dharma, it may provide the needed phone call to get them home.”

Losing Dharma was almost unbearable to the Seymour family. Three years ago the Seymour family adopted the Lab-Samoyed mix puppy. “When she became missing we searched all of the local shelters, we created posters, we looked everywhere and we were broken hearted not to have her at home. Everyone understood the pain that our children Laura and Joseph were going through, but Dennis and I were also terribly hurt by the loss. We all viewed Dharma is a member of our family. When we adopted Darma everyone in the family fell in love and she became our third child.” Daughter Laura chose the name, but son Joseph became the big brother and protector of this new family member. Dharma and Joseph were together most of the time and Dharma even slept each evening on Joseph’s bed.

The family has been overjoyed with the return of Dharma, but overwhelmed is the word used to describe the support of all of the people who have been involved in the process of the family being reunited. According to Peggy Russell-Seymour “AVID ID Systems invented the pet microchip technology and developed the FriendChip™ microchip that Dharma has implanted and the recovery system PETtrac™ that brought her home. The FriendChip™ and PETtrac™ systems saved Dharma.”

The Seymour family learned first-hand the value of United States Standard pet microchipping through their local community; The San Diego County Department of Animal Services and the California and San Diego Veterinary Medical Association have one of the most successful and aggressive microchipping programs in the nation. “Microchipping pets is one of the most important steps pet owners can take to help us stop the unnecessary euthanasia of animals,” according to Pauline White, Executive Director of San Diego Veterinary Medical Association. While this story is encouraging, a similar story had a very negative outcome last month as Banfield Pet Hospital has been microchipping pets with a non standard (ISO) chip. A puppy in Virginia was euthanized because there was not a well established recovery system in place. Banfield Pet Hospital has stopped marketing the ISO pet microchip.

About AVID ID Systems, The Microchip Company:

Based in Norco California, AVID ID Systems is the inventor of pet microchip technology. To date Avid has microchipped over 9 million pets in the United States using the United States Standard 125 MHz frequency. Avid PETtrac™ System fields an average of over 8 thousand calls a week, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and reunites thousands of lost pets with their families throughout the United States.

Contact: Anita Woodley – For Avid Identification Systems, Inc.

Salmon Creek Public Relations Inc.

Vancouver, WA 98686


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Henley Natural Celebrates its Fifth Year of Business

Tampa, FL (PRWEB) May 13, 2011

Natural soap maker Henley Natural enters its fifth year of business this year with a growing list of loyal and satisfied customers and several noteworthy milestones. Since May 2006, Henley Natural has been making natural soap, creams and many other bath and body products for consumers who want these products made with natural ingredients. This commitment to make quality products from natural sources has brought about remarkable results.

2006 – Registered business Henley Natural Brands, LLC. Started selling natural soap at the Downtown Bradenton Farmers Market in Bradenton, FL. Soap was made in 40 bar batches in a slab mold.

2007 – Acquired first major account, Warm Mineral Springs of North Port, FL. Soap is sold in the Warm Mineral Springs gift shop and at the Earth Day Festival, Lakewood Ranch, FL.

2008 – Increased the product line to include body butter and foot bath salts.

2009 – Introduced an e-Commerce website to facilitate Internet shopping. Began building a loyal base of Internet retail customers.

Grew the product line by introducing a body scrub and shea butter cream. Added an outside sales force to call on day spas in the Tampa Bay area. Expanded from farmers markets to craft shows.

2010 – Acquired Met Spa & Salon of Sarasota, FL as a customer. Continued to build a loyal customer base of day spas in the Tampa Bay area. Implemented CRM as a customer relations management and email marketing tool. Implemented FedEx’s Ship Manager shipping system. Saw the integration of three major business components: the e-Commerce website, Quickbooks and the FedEx Ship Manager. Introduced Henley Natural Blog showcasing beauty and soap making articles.

2011 – Acquired large capacity block mold for soap making that is capable of producing 165 bars of soap. Seasonal soaps such as Pumpkin and Christmas soap will be introduced later this year.

About Henley Natural

Founded in 2006, Henley Natural is a natural bath and body products maker located in the Tampa Bay area of Florida. Products such as natural soap, shea butter cream and shea butter body butter are made in small batches to guarantee freshness. Quality ingredients such as olive oil and shea butter add a rich, silky texture to the products and help moisturize the skin. Products are scented with essential oils and many incorporate selected botanicals and herbs. Large wholesale sizes are available for day spas and salons as back bar supplies. Visit the Henley Natural online store at for product pictures and information.

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