Love enables you to put your deepest feelings and fears in the palm of your partner’s hand, knowing they will be handled with care.
–Carl S. Avery
Francesco Hayez – Italian Painter
Written by Jasmine
(Webmistress The Majickal Garden)
Soul mates. It seems it has almost become a buzzword for those actively seeking love in their lives. Many find themselves convinced immediately upon meeting someone, or a short time after, this one *is the one.* Only to have the budding relationship turn out to be the wrong one and they decide they really were not a soul mate after all.
The ease of meeting people on the computer has made this idea even more apparent. The boldest in my mind is dating services offering to pair you up with your own soul mate! Those, in search, brave the two dimensional realm of the internet in the hopes they will discover someone that is just the right one for them. It’s certainly a real possibility, however, the time spent wading thru what and who someone really is and if the chemistry is right, never mind if they are a true soul mate, is mind boggling.
Is there really someone for everyone? How will I know for sure? These are common questions. Lust, passion, physical attraction, love, shared interests; does not make someone a soul mate. Of course these are ingredients in part needed for a good relationship but it’s not a guarantee the presence of them alone makes it so. Neither does the hope that someone is, does not make it so.
I do believe there is a soul mate for everyone. There is more than one. I also believe if someone has not progressed along their path in seeking enlightenment and growth for themselves, the window of opportunity for meeting could be missed. Put simply, someone could meet their soul mate and might not be evolved enough for it to be the right time or for it to work out. I have faith if it’s truly a soul mate situation and both are mutually patient as well as spiritually and emotionally healthy, another chance could come around again in this lifetime if not the next.
What is a soul mate? I understand there is much written on the subject. I have read a fair amount myself. It’s not a science but a spiritual thing. As with any subject in the metaphysical nature…I absorb what is being explained to me and filter it thru my inner self and listen to the guidance from the light to understand with my *knowing.*A soul mate is one we have contracted with before our souls entered our earthly body. The outline worked out and left for us to find our own way there, using tools for growth and lessons learned in order to prepare us for meeting at a particular point in our life. Something that needs to be accomplished together in this lifetime but did not find an end in a past life. A mutual agreement to come back and give it another go.
The past relationship could have been in another form. It could have been a mother/daughter, friends, brother/sister, etc. The plan to come together in a romantic situation this time around could be beneficial to evolving in this lifetime.
As our futures are not cast in stone, because we have free will of choice, things can change because of options chosen to alter the outline we came to this life with and agreed to with our *soul mate*.
The tricky part of a general plan mapped out before arriving in this life is the free will part. Let me use the example of a need for a new pair of shoes. Your decision to work it into your day comes from the experience you have learned to work a schedule. What you may or may not have learned will decide how hectic this will be to accomplish this. You need tools to take you there. Some sort of transportation and a route to arrive at your chosen destination. An idea of what it is you are looking for based on how well you have learned your own needs and desires. There are many things in this scenario that can affect the outcome.
Time can be altered by some unforeseen obstacles. Your route can be changed by a mere quick decision to go left instead of right. Your arriving at a chosen destination based on how dependable your choice of transportation (a tool) turned out to be in the end.
Should you finally arrive comfortably inside the scheduled time, there is the challenge of actually finding what it is you set out to get..let’s not even get into the difficulty we can get into shopping for something particular we have in mind! Victory is surely possible..But it could not be done without a pile of lifelong learning to make it come true. Yes…this is a very simplistic way of explaining what I am trying to convey. Utilizing free will, your own choice of spiritual growth and the *tools* you might choose to accomplish this is a life altering choice in many ways.
If the Soul were pictured in the mind as a garden with the understanding that it needs nourishment to flourish then the desire to tend it would naturally include adding the life giving additives of sun, water and fertilizer in order to make it happen. By adding meditation, prayer, reading from spiritually enhancing material, and discovering ways to become the best one can be and living it, there is an acknowledgement to the higher powers of true intention. That would be the time to ask for the desire to find your soul mate.
Spiritual health and growth is a life time process that can begin anytime you choose. The soul vibration becomes stronger with reaching out to the universe for guidance and help. In spiritual enlightenment…this means making it easier for your soul mate to find you, as their soul reaches out for the other.
So..how does one know if they are looking into the eyes of a soul mate? If one believes the eyes are the window to the soul, it might be a starting point. It’s looking beyond the pretty baby blues or the bewitching browns to see deep inside. It is said that the eyes are the window to the soul. On that level there should be a feeling of recognition. There is a knowing of comfort and rightness that you belong there and it’s mutually shared. Sure, you might have the giddy, heady romantic feelings going on inside but what I am referring to is a *soul recognition.* As important as sex can be in a relationship, in a soul mate relationship it is not the most important thing. A couple can have a fantastic time in the bedroom but that does not make them soul mates.
I believe the best relationships have a strong friend ship at its base. Who would not want to call their mate their best friend? A soul mate will see the best in you and encourage its development unencumbered by indifference at your successes. They support your interests even if it’s not their cup of tea. With a mutual base like this and the kind of love that is given freely and unconditional, it will naturally need to be returned in kind. A sense that you want to be together that progresses and deepens with time. Not a need to be together. There is a big difference. Love in its purest form. It’s a kind of love that is not jealous or unkind.
Soul Mate relationships need not be perfect taking into consideration the Mars and Venus theory on men and woman! In fact, it could be quite challenging. But if 2 people are seeking enlightenment and growth together, the rough spots found on the path can be tackled together. It’s about fulfilling a spiritual agreement as a couple.
In doing the things suggested for yourself, you are realizing your spiritual path of enlightenment and growth. Your letting the universe know that you are ready for what they might have in store for you. At the very least, you will be bettering and discovering wonderful things about yourself and the universe that you never thought possible.
At best..one day when you least expect it, you might find yourself staring into the eyes of your soul mate…and you will be ready.
We’ve got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it’s going to get on by itself. You’ve got to keep watering it. You’ve got to really look after it and nurture it.
When we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness – and call it love – true love
Sir Frank Dicksee – British Artist
Romeo and Juliet
You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.