When my daughter was young, she had difficulties settling down to sleep. There was a routine we followed nightly that needed to be followed, in order, for her to settle down. If an interruption caused enough time delay or enough time passed where she could not sleep, we had to start all over again. As a busy mother of 2 sometimes this seemed to take “forever” considering the chores I still had in front of me before I could sleep but I realized how important this routine was to her comfort and peace of mind.
At the time I was learning meditation and the thought occurred to me that perhaps it could help her. I found a guided meditation book for children. She was around 4 years old at the time and I explained to her how this would help her relax and feel safe on her inside. After the usual routine I had her lie on her back with the covers all tucked in around her with the buddy of her choice. With her eyes closed we focused on her breath, slow in/ out and to “listen” to it. Then I would read the guided meditation from the book.
At first it was funny to her and we had some giggle time to get thru but after a few times she began to settle into it. We did this nightly for quite a while. Then the time came where we were able to let it go until it became an option for the occasion when she would feel the need to ask for it. The extra nighttime steps began to drop away.
Some months passed and I had to be away for a week. I knew that she would have a problem with my absence for that length of time. So I made a recording of some of the meditations from the book and gave her a player so she could use it at night while I was away. Her dad was there for her while she played it. It was a success and made a difference for her.
There are many meditation books for children available with different flavors depending on where your own beliefs lie as well as websites that offer free online streaming of recorded meditations. Recordings work well however I found my voice made a difference for her.
The world can be a scary place for our precious children. Teaching them at an early age that they have control over their own level of comfort and feeling of security in knowing they are loved and supported is a valuable gift to offer them.
Written by Jasmine@majickalgarden.com